After a Phoenix divorce, many non-custodial parents struggle with how to continue to be an effective parent and forge a strong relationship with their children. This can become even more difficult if you live a few towns - or states - away. If you're wondering if it's possible to still be a great parent from a distance, our Phoenix divorce lawyers want you to know that it is possible - but it takes work.
How Can I be an Effective Long-Distance Parent after my Phoenix Divorce?
- Stay involved. Just because you're further away doesn't mean you can't stay involved in your child's life. Although you may not be able to attend every dance recital or baseball game, make sure that you know what's going on with activities like these. Ask questions about who's involved, how your child did, and what your child is interested in. Although it may seem minor, knowing about that homerun she hit and sharing in the excitement will mean a lot to your child.
- Keep talking. If you don't see each other every day, it can be difficult to keep the conversation going. Make sure you ask open-ended questions and provide a positive environment to make conversation easier. Additionally, try finding a hobby or interest you can share - such as a favorite television series or sport - so that you always have something to talk about when conversation lags.
- Take initiative. Don't put the pressure on your kids to keep up the relationship with you. Take the initiative to open conversation, schedule time together, make a phone call, or otherwise make an effort to forge a strong relationship.
- Try other ways to stay in contact. Although the face-to-face time you're able to spend with your kids is precious, don't forget that there are other ways to stay connected. Use email, instant messaging, the telephone, and even letters through the mail.
Ultimately, it boils down to paying attention and making an effort to keep communicating and caring, even if you can't be in the same physical space. And, of course, be sure that you and the custodial parent can agree on the rules.
If you have questions about child custody in Glendale or need help with an Arizona divorce, speak with our expert Phoenix divorce attorneys today at 1-888-929-5292. We would be happy to hear about your situation in a completely free, no-obligation consultation and talk about how - and if - we can help.
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